women's safety

Tactical Tip #115 Checking for Soundness before you Buy

It is a common question to ask a seller when buying a horse, “does it have a sound mind?” Although the horse might be beautiful it does not mean that it can think straight. This weekend’s women’s march had some beautiful speakers, who rattled off some pretty crazy stuff. “blow up the white house, a president who looks like a Cheeto and D.C is overrun with Nazism’s.” The day was a visual feast for the eyes with many protesters holding signs with profanities, yelling profanities and many dressed up as female genitalia! All this left millions scratching their heads. Yes, they are beautiful, but are their arguments sound?

Protests, are an interesting thing, people not wanting to miss out, join in not really sure of the reason.   Take for example over a decade ago when the U.S invaded Iraq, television showed protesters in San Francisco with signs that read, “we should not be in Ireland!” Group-think, silences rational overtaking individual reasoning abilities. There was a time when the great Martin Luther King led and inspired a nation during the civil rights marches, their meaning and purpose were crystal clear; not so much today. Marches today are now seen as an opportunity to get on social media, “hey mom, look I am on Instagram, or I have a microphone!” Without a clear moral message and a respected leader, they have become meaningless.

The number one threat to women’s safety is lack of the whole truth. What we do not know absolutely can hurt us. When either buying a horse, or participating in a march or anything in life for that matter, first ask yourself a question, “although this thing is beautiful, what is the truth behind it, what is the whole story? What are the motives behind the madness? Does it have a sound mind?” 


Tactical Tip #114 Why being Organized will keep you safe and looking snappy!

 Oh how  I Love, looking Snappy and being Smart! 

Maybe she is you or someone you know, she has a place for everything and everything in its place, she is organized and well put together. When I was young that was not me, but after lost credit cards, keys and misplaced dollar bills I learned my lesson. Organization can save your life!

When I became a peace officer I had to know where each piece of survival equipment was without looking, in order to pull it out in an emergency. In the academy, cases of missing equipment were severely reprimanded; one cadet had to crab crawl across the entire football field to retrieve his lost backpack.  There was a reason we had to stand up straight, our uniforms pressed and our shoes shined, it was to project the image of togetherness and not one of vulnerability. There is a great psychology behind it all that women can imitate. Opportunists look for vulnerability, the less you look vulnerable, the less likely you will be targeted. There are three areas where women can become more organized and therefore empowered.

Your purse, as my mom used to say, “pull yourself together!” Check out your purse, do things get easily lost in it? If so either re-organize it or get rid of it. You should be able to know where everything is without looking, especially your pepper spray or Taser, no attacker will wait for you to find it.

Your clothes, like a uniform should convey power and confidence, you can be stylish and safe without looking like a bag lady, the better you dress the more confident you look and the less likely you are to be a target. The added benefit of dressing well when you go out the door each day is that everyone, treats you better, even other women.

Lastly you're never fully dressed without good posture, it has an incredible ability to exude confidence inside and out, making you more attractive and appear as a force to be reckoned with. 

Being organized, with our things, our appearance and in our bodies, creates an image of being pulled together. Being organized reduces stress, generates positive thoughts and can make you feel more energetic and yes, even happier.