Tactical Tip #117 Strategic and Tactical Spring Cleaning



A strategy is an overall campaign plan and spring cleaning is a perfect time to implement it.  Begin by organizing your resources, your home, office and car.  These areas are the central hub in which you use to make money, if you fail to have them in order the system breaks down.

The tactics are the hands-on execution

Reduce your spring cleaning in the future with a clean as you go mentality every day.

·         House-Buy a cheap bin at Ross or Marshals, throw things in its daily or monthly that have outlived their usefulness. It’s like one stop shopping in reverse, then take the whole bin and drop if off at the nearest Good Will.

·         Car- If you a person whose life is so fast and throw things on the floor, try to confine it to just one small area, shoot for the garbage bag you laid on the floor first. Makes clean up way easy!

·         Office- Streamline binders, files and work area for greater efficiency, job and profit. This means to throw out the old training binder, old cards, notes, used up file folders. Clear your mind by buying fresh new folders that inspire the imagination to create and care for.

Avoiding spring cleaning all together means you must stay balanced and strategic all year long, which means being proactive and not a procrastinator. 

With life lived at a break neck speed carving out time to do what you really want means cleaning and organizing as you go which brings me to;  Don’t lose Sh#$%-  As you put items away for the day, lock your eyes and brain on the activity of placing them on the hook or in the bag. This is called mindfulness and not only helps you keep track of things better it also has a calming and centering effect when life gets too chaotic.





Tactical Tip #116 Prepare for the worst but expect the best

The listening Post

Listening for potential problems: Yesterday it was feared the Oroville dam would breach, thousands were evacuated in case it did.  How fast could you make an exit? I admit it I am a little organizational obsessed. I have enough back packs, labels and bins to last a lifetime. My tactical bags are complete with water filters, knives, flashlights and protein bars. I could also grab for one blindfolded no matter what kind of stressful situation I was in, because what good is the best gear unless you can find it in an emergency? Right?

People who are organized and prepared for the worst have the ability to see what others do not, that bad things can and do happen. The organized and prepared person is a calm person and extremely resilient, they are the epitome of the rule, “prepare for the worst, but expect the best.”

Organization is key to responding to emergencies.  Pick out at least two places in your home to put food, water, batteries, flashlights, first aid kit, etc.  Put those supplies in water proof containers.  Keep one for your car as well along with jumper cables and a blanket or two.  Label everything and consider where you live, what is the most likely thing to happen in your area? Hurricane, earthquake, flood or a shooting. Finally share the list with your family members and rotate items regularly to maintain freshness.  

Always be aware and listen for potential problems, being proactive will give you the advantage of time and peace of mind knowing you have an answer if an emergency happens.



Tactical Tip #115 Checking for Soundness before you Buy

It is a common question to ask a seller when buying a horse, “does it have a sound mind?” Although the horse might be beautiful it does not mean that it can think straight. This weekend’s women’s march had some beautiful speakers, who rattled off some pretty crazy stuff. “blow up the white house, a president who looks like a Cheeto and D.C is overrun with Nazism’s.” The day was a visual feast for the eyes with many protesters holding signs with profanities, yelling profanities and many dressed up as female genitalia! All this left millions scratching their heads. Yes, they are beautiful, but are their arguments sound?

Protests, are an interesting thing, people not wanting to miss out, join in not really sure of the reason.   Take for example over a decade ago when the U.S invaded Iraq, television showed protesters in San Francisco with signs that read, “we should not be in Ireland!” Group-think, silences rational overtaking individual reasoning abilities. There was a time when the great Martin Luther King led and inspired a nation during the civil rights marches, their meaning and purpose were crystal clear; not so much today. Marches today are now seen as an opportunity to get on social media, “hey mom, look I am on Instagram, or I have a microphone!” Without a clear moral message and a respected leader, they have become meaningless.

The number one threat to women’s safety is lack of the whole truth. What we do not know absolutely can hurt us. When either buying a horse, or participating in a march or anything in life for that matter, first ask yourself a question, “although this thing is beautiful, what is the truth behind it, what is the whole story? What are the motives behind the madness? Does it have a sound mind?” 


Tactical Tip #114 Why being Organized will keep you safe and looking snappy!

 Oh how  I Love, looking Snappy and being Smart! 

Maybe she is you or someone you know, she has a place for everything and everything in its place, she is organized and well put together. When I was young that was not me, but after lost credit cards, keys and misplaced dollar bills I learned my lesson. Organization can save your life!

When I became a peace officer I had to know where each piece of survival equipment was without looking, in order to pull it out in an emergency. In the academy, cases of missing equipment were severely reprimanded; one cadet had to crab crawl across the entire football field to retrieve his lost backpack.  There was a reason we had to stand up straight, our uniforms pressed and our shoes shined, it was to project the image of togetherness and not one of vulnerability. There is a great psychology behind it all that women can imitate. Opportunists look for vulnerability, the less you look vulnerable, the less likely you will be targeted. There are three areas where women can become more organized and therefore empowered.

Your purse, as my mom used to say, “pull yourself together!” Check out your purse, do things get easily lost in it? If so either re-organize it or get rid of it. You should be able to know where everything is without looking, especially your pepper spray or Taser, no attacker will wait for you to find it.

Your clothes, like a uniform should convey power and confidence, you can be stylish and safe without looking like a bag lady, the better you dress the more confident you look and the less likely you are to be a target. The added benefit of dressing well when you go out the door each day is that everyone, treats you better, even other women.

Lastly you're never fully dressed without good posture, it has an incredible ability to exude confidence inside and out, making you more attractive and appear as a force to be reckoned with. 

Being organized, with our things, our appearance and in our bodies, creates an image of being pulled together. Being organized reduces stress, generates positive thoughts and can make you feel more energetic and yes, even happier.

Tactical Tip #113 Support your local Coach

Our small community newspaper recently reported: “Four male students are in custody for plotting to gun down students and faculty at an upcoming  High School event.” Only one day earlier in Rosenberg Oregon 9 killed in at a college shooting. Mass shootings by young males has reached a tipping point creating a momentum that is beyond horrifying. Today the lack for respect for one’s own life suicide as the end result, let alone others, removes the criminal justice system all together. With no one to left to point our anger and frustration at, the problem becomes one of introspection, how can we stop this madness? While the media would have us believe it is guns, guns are no more responsible for killing people than spoons are for making people fat.

Dr. Sax M.D and Ph.D. who wrote, Boys Adrift, says it this way, “the problem is that we have forgotten that boys do not just become men, they are mentored into manhood. Boys must go through a conscience process, the importance of initiation rights were known by the Navajo, the African warrior Massi tribe and the Orthodox Jews.  Otherwise they remain caught in a self-protective attitude that becomes violence against the weak. A mentoring process by a strong male serves to equip them to deal with the difficulties of life and to redirect their energies towards the good of the community.”

Our society does a huge disservice to men from demeaning commercials that portray the head of the household as an incompetent father who cannot manage to find the cough syrup, to the recent lionization of a once great male athlete’s decision to castrate himself and implant plastic orbs on his chest as a symbol of heroism. The attack on males today and masculinity has reached a hyper pitch that is going to take a generation to reverse. Is it any wonder the combination of forces that have combined to create the perfect storm we see today?

The good news is that something can be done about this problem that does not require one new piece of legislation.  The answer is to support male mentors.  How? If you are a manager, let your male employees off early to coach.  Support your local teachers, mechanics, painters and accountants. Gals, got a husband? Encourage him to head up a male youth group he has been thinking about.  Perhaps you have noticed a neighborhood with a young man that looks like he needs someone to take him hiking or fishing, get past your fears and take him. If you have a son don’t buy or encourage violent video games and limit the time he has on it. Join or start a boys and girls club of America.   And finally get him to church and make him realize that there is something greater than himself that he needs to answer to.   People create healthy societies, these are all ways a civilized world creates healthy men and civilized society.

Tactical Tip #112 Why True Love can make you Rich

Recently while attending a wedding, I heard the minister say to the couple, “and always remember to be considerate.” There were a lot of people at the wedding who later remarked that they liked that particular part of the wedding. For me it reminded me of a saying, “Selfish love simply wants you, while true love wants what is best for you.” It is a simple yet effective statement to vet whether your love or your partners love is true or not.

After spending many years working for the criminal justice system I saw plenty of extreme cases of neglect or abuse due to lack of true love for one another. As I wrote this article I looked up the statics for single mothers and was saddened to find out that According to Child Trends data bank, single parenthood has been climbing steadily since the sixties resulting in the following consequences. “Instable living arrangements, live in poverty, socio-emotional problems, engage in sex at a younger age, and have a birth outside of marriage. Children from broken homes have lower occupational status and income, when they get to be adults themselves and have more troubled marriages and more divorces than those born to married parent.”

Robert Kyosaki who wrote the bestselling financial advice book, “Rich Dad Poor Dad,” said that of all the financial advice he gives the best is, “whatever you do, don’t get divorced, it costs too much.”

So if you’re in a relationship that you’re not sure about, ask yourself this question, “Do we both want what is best for each other?” This means in every way possible, spiritual, financial, physical, and familial.  And then if you don’t, move on. If you do, make sure you have a sit down about all of these topics and more, your FICO score, financial plans and educational. These are great ways to make sure that this merger is going to be something more than physical, it will be a valuable lasting one!

Tactical Tip # 111 Productivity: The Essential Eight

I once witnessed a sergeant, who worked with me at the county jail, flip out in the break room tossing a plastic chair across the room. I’m sure we have all been in a job where we saw someone loose it. Something or someone had pushed him to his breaking point. Jarred from our egocentric awareness, we cleared the room and all wide-eyed left in a daze; “what the heck is his problem?” We muttered under our breaths. Truth be told, we don’t often put ourselves in other peoples’ shoes. Doing this would save us a lot of workplace tension, frustration, lost productivity declining morale and in this case seemingly unpredictable behavior.

Inadvertently contributing to the breakdown of the workplace or any community is the last thing most of us want to do, so I am here to help. All human beings have strong emotions to the following eight stimuli and when one or more of these is attacked or lost, anger, depression or acting out can result.

  • We seek a connection with others
  • We are saddened by loss and try to avoid it
  • We dislike rejection
  • We like recognition and attention
  • We dislike ridicule and embarrassment
  • We care what other think of us
  • We will do more to avoid pain that new will do to seek pleasure
  • We seek a degree of control over our lives.

When we cannot get a connection with co-workers, we lose our job, we get rejected, we get ridiculed for not fitting in, and it creates embarrassment. It bothers us when other people think poorly of us, so we avoid painful situations to our detriment and then all the contributing factors have resulted in us losing control.  The tactical advantage is understanding that when an individual is hit with the loss or attack of one or more of these essential eight and unable to  re balance themselves,quickly enough before more stress comes, an outburst is likely to occur.  Managers, employees, parents, teachers, cops, all are in positions of authority over others. Take the tactical advantage and think about these eight the next time you wonder why  productivity is down, profits are low, a child does not respond or someone is yelling at you. You just might avoid being hit by a flying chair!

Tactical Tip #110 Blow up your TV and throw away your cell phones!

A funny old John Prine Tune, called” Spanish Pipe dream,” gives us this advice, but I added the words, “cell phone,” you get the idea.  A Google search of tech addictions results in 1,250,000 results, it’s a problem.  We have all had our phones in our faces for too long then looked up strained our necks and then see it, the sun, brilliant and hiding just behind a splash of tangerine colored clouds. And then we think, “What else have I missed, or did I barely miss?” Habits are harder to break once their formed than if we avoid them in the first place.

Our tech addictions have separated us from each other and inhibited us in many more ways than one might consider initially but consider setting a better example for the sake of your kids or grandkids.

  • It reduces our creativity levels- Daniel Pink in his bestselling book, “A Whole Mind” states the economic future points to a shift from the Left brain thinkers to the right brain thinkers. He states that the artists, inventors, designers, storytellers, caregivers, consolers, and big picture thinkers that will now reap society’s riches rewards and share it greatest joys, and not necessarily the tech guy or theMBA who can crunch numbers.
  • It reduces our levels of safety- Human interaction tells us a lot about other individuals, their body language, facial expressions and tone of voice, it all aid us in discerningbetween threat versesWhen we or let our children isolate ourselves from real human interaction our innate human instincts that talk to us and keep us safe from harm become diminished. This results in not paying attention to small nuances that would otherwise warn us of potential problemsin everyday situations, is this parking lot safe to park in,  who are those loitering at the gas pumps,  why won’t this person make eye contact, and how did all this graffiti get here in this neighborhood?

According to a New York Times article by Nick Bilton, he writes a fascinating article, “Steve Jobs Was a Low Tech Parent,” he states a conversation he had with Jobs once, “So, your kids must love the iPad?” I asked Mr. Jobs, trying to change the subject. The company’s first tablet was just hitting the shelves. “They haven’t used it,” he told me. “We limit how much technology our kids use at home.”

Nick goes on to say, “I’m sure I responded with a gasp and dumbfounded silence. I had imagined the Jobs’ household was like a nerd’s paradise: that the walls were giant touch screens, the dining table was made from tiles of iPads and that iPods were handed out to guests like chocolates on a pillow.”

“Nope, Mr. Jobs told me, not even close.”

“Since then, I’ve met a number of technology chief executives and venture capitalists who say similar things: they strictly limit their children’s screen time, often banning all gadgets on school nights, and allocating ascetic time limits on weekends.”

There is no big secret to not starting an addiction, you just don’t start one, and then there is no habit to break. It just becomes your lifestyle like eating healthy, exercising, enriching your soul, you just do it because it is good for you.  And you do it because it gives you the Tactical Advantage!

Tactical Tip #109 One Phrase to get More Sales

“People will never care how much you know until they know how much you care,” I first heard those words from a woman who was mentoring me in the field of Real Estate. She had a Master’s degree and told me that the clients in real estate really didn’t care about her level of education, only how much integrity she had. Did she care about what happened to them?

America was founded by merchants, sales people who quickly learned that in order to do business with people and get more business, what was required was honesty and integrity. The salespeople with the most integrity were the ones with the most sales. Everyone was involved, those who helped the merchant indirectly helped themselves by ensuring even more business, everyone profited because they cared.  Manipulative people and con-artists who pretended to care and came off as nice because of a great smile, did profit off the trusting ignorance of others, but they were usually quickly discovered and either tar and feathered or run out of town!

Dale Carnegies best- selling book, “How to win friends and influence people,” is a staple of every public speaker and sales person out there, millions of people have read it and although it has great information in it,  it  sometimes comes off sounding a bit manipulative. People often get into trouble these days by equating “niceness” with “goodness.” Being able to trust your intuition about the true content of someone’s character, questioning if he or she is a good person rather than just nice, is a tactical skill that takes leadership to the next level. Ask yourself, “how does this person treat other people, do they help without asking for anything in return?”  In our race to seem more polite, more benevolent or generous to a world that is quick to judge us for making judgments it is important to realize that we have to be honest with ourselves about what we see, and ask ourselves, is this person a good person, does he or she really care?

Tactical Tip #108 Two Steps to Being a Tactical Leader

1. Expect the best

2. Prepare for the worst

An over simplified summation of leadership would look something like this, “to inspire others, build trust, and create a shared vision that motivates others to move with you; True leadership is not built on a position of authority, hierarchy or coercion, but is focused on tasks and the other person’s growth.”

My older brother was very good at war games. He had a box-spring mattress fort, set in the middle of an open field. His was the most-fortified and well-stocked. He also had the best ammo; horse manure, three separate piles, fresh, day old, and one super hard. Of course all the kids wanted to be on his side.

Saturday afternoons in the summer after cartoons, we kids anxiously expected the best in our field equine wars, but were always shocked when we got hit with the worst. One particular day after putting up a mighty battle, covered with manure juice, I sat down with my mind free of clouded emotion, and I realized my brother’s fatal error. I realized that he would not personally inspire his young sycophants to achieve their personal best. And, although he was a character, he lacked humility. Kids had to be coerced or intimidated into performing or he would pulverize them.

And that is when I took my leadership to the next level. I became tactical. I realized that although he had some of the elements of a leader, he created a shared vision to annihilate the opposition, he was not interested in them as individuals.

I had a plan to win all of them over. I expected the best, and I set up a nurse’s station, made cookies, and offered a new shared vision, that of working out horse rides from the owner in exchange for raking up manure. But, I was prepared for the worst and equipped my fort with very, very long water hoses. Any injured kid could come to my fort, get their wounds attended to, get fed and protected. It was not long before they mutinied him and he was outnumbered.

Although I did not know it at the time I had influenced this group of individuals to reach a common goal. I offered some kind of change or progress, unlike the more self-centered focus on which was only about the exercise of power.

The bottom line is this, adults attach names to common sense ideas like in the book by Ralph Stogdill, “An encyclopedic study of leadership: a survey of theory and research”

But most of real quality leadership is simply reaching into your own soul and knowing that others want to be treated the way you want to be treated. Your ability to understand your preferences, as well as those of others with whom you work or live can substantially enhance your ability to lead effectively.